Sing it with me everybody:
*plays cheerful piano chords*
Trans men who do not “pass” still have male privilege
*piano playing gets intense*
and cannot experience misogyny of any form
*piano gets soft, singing gets whispery and heartfelt*
the only real prejudice you face is transphobia
stop trying to invade women’s spaces you are misgendering yourself you useless dish rag
Even though trans men aren’t women, they’re still affected by misogyny. When people misgender trans men as women and then act misogynystically toward the person they think is a woman, that is misogyny affecting trans men.
As for trans men always receiving male privilege, I can tell you from my own experiences with T that that’s just not true. While I’m happy to finally be consistently read as male, there is a HUGE difference between how people treated me before T and how people treat me now, after only a couple months. I know I didn’t get treated as well by strangers before, when they misgendered me as a woman. I definitely didn’t have access to the amount of male privilege I have now, because I didn’t pass as male, so people treated me like they would treat a woman.
The fact of the matter is, how you identify is seldom as large an influence as how you are perceived to identify when it comes to male privilege and misogyny. I do actually wish there was a better word for the complicated relationship trans men have with misgendering, misogyny, and erasure.
the other day I was taking my T shot and my boyfriend’s stoner-ass friend was hanging around and he
I SHIT YOU NOT
he started on about how “you and your boyfriend are making such a big commitment” and “won’t this change your body and mind permanently?” and “how do you know that’s what you truely want?”
like man do you not see that I’m sitting here with a needle full of hormones buried in my thigh CAUSE LET ME TELL YOU I AM PRETTY DAMN CERTAIN